I posted the following on Facebook and Instagram and tagged my family. I am also placing it here because there is a chance they will report me and have it removed from social media. Take it or leave it. I don't give a fuck.
I don't really wonder what happened.
I am furious that I am the one who has to push for my 91 year old grandmother to get vaccinated from covid 19. The family members who are currently caring for her have told her she is safe and doesn’t need to be vaccinated. She is taken out in public and has visitors. Her caregivers are encouraging people to visit her. They are NOT requiring masks, vaccinations or negative covid tests.
My grandmother and I haven’t spoken in over 10 years. I spent years trying to make her happy. It didn’t work. It’s a common theme with her. After my grandfather died she claimed all of the things he had given away were now hers. Specifically to me, she was referencing the paintings (he had painted while in college) that he gave me. One day, when I was helping my grandmother, he put them in my car without telling me he was going to. Instead of just leaving with them I told my grandmother what he did. Everyone in my family knows she was the boss, even of grandpa’s things. She said they were his do with as he chooses and that I could have them. With her permission, I happily took home the gifts from my grandpa.
Years later, after he died, she wanted them back. I was devastated and furious. I followed her ridiculous rules and still didn’t earn her respect. Today, even though everyone tells me she is a frail old woman who has lost her former mental capacity, I haven’t forgiven her. She tried to steal my connection to my dead grandfather. I don’t know if I’ll ever forgive her. I don’t know if I want to.
BUT I do not wish her harm.
I do not want her to suffocate to death on a ventilator.
HOW am I the only one angry enough about her not being vaccinated to say something?!!! The fact that she isn’t vaccinated in late August is criminal. It is elder neglect. She was an RN. She respected and followed medical advice. Had this pandemic happen before she lost her mental capacity she would have been the first in line for the vaccine and dragged my anti-doctor grandfather with her, if he were alive
How have the other RNs in the family not made sure she was vaccinated?? How have none of her six children not gotten her vaccinated??? She has an enormous family. Does no one else want to give her the best protection against a torturous death? Do they just not care because of her age?
I know I’m being mean. No need to tell me. I’m just channeling my mean grandmother to try to shame my family into getting her vaccinated. It may not work. They may have no shame. But if she dies the torturous death of covid I will know I did what I could to wake up those who have the power to get her or demand she be vaccinated.
My grandmother should be getting ready to receive a third booster shot. Which would give her the best chance to fight off delta and future variants.
Instead she is completely unprotected.
This isn’t political. Her doctor advised she get vaccinated. Every respected medical professional advises 91 year olds get vaccinated. She should be vaccinated. She should have been vaccinated over 6 months ago. It is negligent that she hasn’t.
If she dies a horrific covid death I know who I will blame.
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